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June 1, 2017 / by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member

7) "At the Crossroads:  Making A Choice to Heal"

This is how it starts:

A boy loses his mother to cancer when he is 11.  He never is encouraged to grieve, never is comforted by his father or other relatives.  He seals himself over, and muscles through his adolescence, drinking too much beer at parties and looking at porn whenever feeling stressed, sad, or scared.  His father raises him alone, a man who was emotionally closed down to begin with, but who becomes even more distant and angry after his wife’s death...

March 4, 2015 / by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member 
6) "When Going Wrong Has Taken Root:  Knowing When To Get Help"


Conflict is normal. Two of nature’s entities are pushing against each other as each tries to follow its own trajectory.  Defined in this way, it’s possible to see that conflict is everywhere in the natural world:  wind against a tree, sprouting seed against soil, birds flying through rain, and so on...


January 15, 2015 / by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member  
5) "Finding the Right Helping Hands:  Seeking Therapy for Your Relationship"

If you’ve fallen into a bad phase in your relationship, it can be very hard to ask for help.  Seeking couple therapy takes courage and persistence, and a willingness to allow a stranger to see your personal life exposed, at a time when you’re likely feeling at your most vulnerable...

December 14, 2014/by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member
4) "Are We Meant for Each Other? :  Compatibility Re-Defined"

Many couples who come in for help say they’re worried they’re not compatible with each other, and that their relationship is therefore doomed.  No matter how much time, money, and effort they apply towards trying to improve their connection, they tell me, they’re convinced they will never climb from a “C+” to an “A+” relationship since they believe their differences are too great to overcome.  “We’re just so different,” they tell me.  “We see things so differently.  Maybe we’re not meant for each other?”...  

November 17, 2014 / by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member
3) “Part II:  A Map For Staying Connected Through the Overwhelm”

In my last blog (see below), I explored ways couples can lose their connection to each other while trying to manage their busy and stressful lives.  There is a map, though, for couples who wish to find their way back to one another.  Here are some specific suggestions...

October 13, 2014 / by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member

 2) “Not Just a Hired Hand: Staying Connected Through the Overwhelm" 

Many of the couples I see in my office are married, with dual incomes and one or more children.  The majority of them are overwhelmed by their work and parenting demands, sometimes to the point of hopelessness.  Theirs may be a first-world problem, but it’s the reality for many American couples today...  


September 14, 2014/by Suzanne Marcus, LMFT, Principal NECCF Staff member

 1) “Introduction: The Work of Strengthening Bonds”
At NECCF, my two colleagues and I, combined, see about 75 couples every week.  We’ve each been in practice for many years -- a sum total of more than six decades -- and by now have been asked into the private lives of hundreds of married and non-married relationships...  


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